Hello, Old
Friend
Kindergarten!
That is when we first met, right? Going to school, sitting side by side, learning
the very same things- there is one thing that is very common between all ‘old
friends’ and that is the fact that the values they carry are the same. Why?
Because we start our schooling together, grow up together, our teachers remain
the same and we learn what they have to teach. Being girls, we even start menstruating
together, exploring the unexplored world at the same time.
We have crushes
together (and at times, even with the same person!). You know what my early
images of us are? It was the time when we both (and of course all our other
friends) used to role play as certain characters of TV serials and then act as
them. I remember dancing with you on our annual cultural programme. I remember
taking turns with you on the swing during the recess.
I still remember
how we used to save money, sneak into the PCO’s and call up our crushes. Not
letting them know we are on the other side. We fell in love, the first time
together. Remember when I had my first fight with the new guy of our class? You
stood by me and fought with him on my behalf. When our physics teacher used to
swap seats during her class and incidentally we both were seated beside people
who either we liked or who liked us and we used to sneak glances on each other
throughout the class.
I would never
forget those history classes we both forgot to study and we got punishments.
When we used to cry as the other fell down, when we were taught that “stupid”
was slang, when the whole class watched Baby’s Day Out together in the computer
room. The pride in your eyes can never be forgotten when I was called in front
to lead the assembly for the first time and the pride in mine, when you solved
the mathematical equation before me.
Decades have
passed and we still bond strongly. Passing on the stick of fag, gorging on the
lip smacking phuchkas whenever any
one of us has the urge to, discussing guys, using foul language, talking about
booze, knowing when the other is sad- we do it all. You know the best part of being
a real old friend? We are almost neighbours! We may not be much in touch these
days. We may not even be the best of friends. But trust me dear, the moment you
told me that you are getting married; I couldn’t stop the lone tear from
escaping my eye. My chaddi-buddy has
grown up! We all do, right?
I cry as I type
this. Trust me this isn’t as easy as I thought it would be. Typing a letter to the
old friend, reliving all those moments that we had left behind! We haven’t been
in touch for the longest time and I am sure that after I left school, you have
become closer to the other classmates we had. I talk to them too. But somewhere
down the line I know. No matter how many friends we have made in all these
years, our friendship will be one of the strongest. It is weird that the first ever friend that I had was a girl and I am still going so strong with her. So very contradicting of how many people might think of me right now! Rather, so very contradicting to the fact that I even have one true friend who I can wish friendship day and who, I am sure, will be one with my family to cry on my deathbed. I am glad.
They say that
any relationship that lasts more than 7 years would last a lifetime. 7 years? Bae,
probably we have been friends since the time we took our first breath. You know
me, nah? If I really start writing, I’ll
keep on writing till the end of time and I will not stop. I have been so
forever. And you must be shocked upon reading this because I am not a person
who expresses her thoughts so easily. No, don’t cry as this is meant for you to
smile. Smile as you remember the time when we used to make cards with our own
hands and gift each other.
Technology has evolved. Today there is no card but
this open letter. For you and for all “old friends” out there who are reading
this. To tell you how much you mean to me. This friendship day, I gift you my
friendship! Thank you, for being my friend. Stay beautiful, stay blessed. Keep smiling and keep being my
friend!
Love,
Bani! (The
world might know me as Vanya now but for you, my Jigyasa, I’ll always be Bani! If
you know what I mean!)